with our children, who are waiting for us to return. As a mother in one of our workshops shared with us, knowing about the hand model of the brain and the idea of low-road behaviors, she came to realize that while these frequent moments of “flipping her lid” weren’t her fault, it was her responsibility to make a repair and try to reduce the occurrences of these nonintegrated states. Knowing about the brain can help you let go of self-blame and shame that make reconnecting with our children so difficult. Instead, we can realize that the brain just works this way, and we can use our minds to
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