coherence. The resultant feeling in the child is that the world is not a reliable place and the sense of self may become filled with anxiety and uncertainty. In order to thrive, a child (and perhaps each of us at any age) needs contingent communication with significant others. A child especially needs a “good-enough” parent: no parent can provide contingent communication all of the time, but frequent experiences of feeling connected are vital in building relationships. It is often a challenge to make sense of our children’s signals and some children may be especially difficult to understand
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