We may have learned in our own childhood that emotions are “bad” and therefore our children’s as well as our own emotions may be uncomfortable for us. Such experiences and such beliefs may block our ability to be present fully in our relationships. Our children benefit when we express our feelings directly, simply, and in nonthreatening ways. A child wants to know not only what his parents think but also how they feel. When we’re upset, angry, or disappointed, excited, proud, or delighted, we can let our children know. Children need to know that we have feelings too. When we express our
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