When you are feeling stressed or find yourself in situations with your child that trigger past unresolved issues, your mind may shut off and become inflexible. This inflexibility can be an indication that you are entering a different state of mind that directly impairs your ability to think clearly and maintain an emotional connection to your child. We call this a low mode of processing. When in a lower mode of processing, which we’ll call the low road, you may become flooded by feelings such as fear, sadness, or rage. These intense emotions can lead you to have knee-jerk reactions instead of
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