TABLE 6. THE ABC’S OF ATTACHMENT The ABC’s of attachment are the developmental sequence of attunement, balance, and coherence. Attunement—Aligning your own internal state with those of your children. Often accomplished by the contingent sharing of nonverbal signals. Balance—Your children attain balance of their body, emotions, and states of mind through attunement with you. Coherence—The sense of integration that is acquired by your children through your relationship with them in which they are able to come to feel both internally integrated and interpersonally connected to others.
