When the Past Is Present: Healing the Emotional Wounds that Sabotage our Relationships

by David Richo

transference, feelings and beliefs from the past reemerge in our present relationships.

unconscious;

mistaking someone in the present for someone...

see one another without obstructions or elaborations from our own story,

mindfulness, pure attention to the purely here.

Unconscious transference gives power to then. Awareness of our transference ...

Mindfulness is attention to ...

mindfulness is actually attentivene...

flowing with reality that never ceases to ...

transference we stop ourselves from flowing with pres...

strong reactions of

avoidance

casting directors.

Synchronicity, meaningful coincidence, makes just the right actors come along

Like how I felt when my ex came along?

How sad it is that what shaped us became a burden and a secret too.

Transference is essentially a compulsion to return to our past in order to clear up emotionally backlogged business.

Since all we have is the present, we use it to make up for the past.

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in transference we are continually translating the story lines of our own past into our present transactions.

importance may not be tied to an authentic you-and-I experience but

C’mon dude.. I don’t think it’s an accurate assumption that if transference is a problem in our relationship, that it is 100% the basis of the relationship in the first place. You can still have an authentic one on one, present, relationship while having a behavior or action relating to transference here and there.

Indeed, the word present becomes more symbolic than real once we realize that the past is so much a part of it.

💥💥 this guy is way over my head with some of this ish.

“You can play the part and if you cannot, I can train you for the role.”