We can look at rage as an example of a feeling that recycles: hate and hurt within a transference can be part of a sad and painful cycle: hurt, hate, hurt. Someone has hurt us in the past. We hate him for it. We show our hate by hurting someone in the present who reminds us of him. But our hurting that person does not satisfy our rage, because we are hurting the wrong person. We are as upset and enraged as we are partly because what has hurt us in our present conflict recalls a hurt from the past from another person. We are trying to get back at a phantom through a live person now. So of
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