We apply it to abuse when we address abuse by calling it by name and speaking up about it, placing it on the table so it can be dealt with. We process by showing our angry feelings and the full range of our grief and by acknowledging the transference dimension. We resolve the issue by seeing things change as the abuser seeks and uses therapeutic help. If this does not happen, we move on. We integrate the new awareness into our life by acting in new, stronger ways that do not permit abuse or intimidation and that set clear boundaries in future relationships in order to keep ourselves safe.
