Gradually, as we become more conscious, we move into the pure adult present where not all will be given and not all will be received and we can still survive. That “and” is our equanimity. By it we let others off the hook and act in accord with the givens of others’ limitations. Equanimity is not insensitive distancing or cold neutrality. It is rather an embrace of experience without the mind-sets of “grab if pleasant” or “run if unpleasant.” Instead, all conditions are held with equal composure.
