There are four tensions that impact all of us. Each is a given of life and a core issue in relationship. Each evokes fear and is a focus of transference. Each originates in our past and moves itself into the present. We cannot eliminate these four hurdles but we can learn to scale them with equanimity. 1. Comings and goings 2. Giving and receiving 3. Being accepted and being rejected 4. Letting go and moving on
