The Weight Of What's Gone: Words & Thoughts From A Grieving Heart | Grief Quotes & Poems

by Jenna Lowthert

Grief is heavy, but so is love.. and somehow, we learn to carry the weight of both.

the weight of what’s gone is not only in the sadness. sometimes it’s in the realization that some things will never be the same again.

their shoes still by the door. their favorite mug, still on the kitchen counter. all their things, just as they left them. frozen in time. it’s as if they are just out for the day and will be coming back sometime soon but life doesn’t give us that courtesy and the silence reminds us that they won’t be returning home.. ..and i think that is what hurts the most.

how unfair it is, that i have to live the rest of my life, without you.

i made a wish today. a wish that you are free of pain and at peace. a wish that you would visit me in my dreams. a wish that you somehow know how much I love and miss you. today, i wished for you.

grief is wanting to keep everything that was ever theirs because sometimes we feel that is all we have left of them.

i never truly understood loss until i sat next to my mom’s hospital bed and begged for a miracle that never came.

when we lose someone that we love so much, it changes us in ways we never could imagine. it’s a crush to our souls. a reminder that life is fleeting and fragile, and that love can be both beautiful & painful all at once.

we replay our last words over and over again. always wishing for just one more chance to hear their voice and i don’t think that the longing to speak to them, just one more time, ever truly goes away.

grief is the shadow that follows you around everywhere you go. some days it is barely there. some days it is all you can see.

say their name. shout it from a rooftop. talk about them. tell their story. drive with the windows down, blasting their old favorite songs. celebrate their life. live yours for them. never let them be forgotten.. and they will always be remembered.

they say that grief is the price we pay for love.. but what they don’t tell you is that sometimes the cost is so high that we never truly recover.

repeat after me: this is my grief journey and nobody else’s. i will never allow anyone to put a timeline on my grief. i will never feel bad for having a day when i scream and cry and let it all out. i will never be guilted into missing my loved one any less just because so much time has gone by. and i will never, ever stop talking about them just because people think that i should be “over it by now”

if you are struggling, please remember this.. grief is never a sign of weakness. grief means we had a life filled with love. grief is the way we honor that love that we still have in our hearts for those we lost.

heavens gain was my hearts biggest loss.

losing a parent is not just a moment of sadness. it’s a lifelong adjustment to our world as we always knew it now forever changed.

your memory will always be the heartbeat of my soul.

think of me but not always with sadness. think of me and all the moments we shared. i live in your heart. i will always be there. smile for me when you see those stars in the sky, i spend my days watching you from way up high. think of me in the moments that make your heart soar. through the joy in your life, remember me more. dry those tears and clear your view. look for me in the little things i left behind, they will always be a part of you. when you think of me, please don’t think of me in sorrows, i will be with you for all your tomorrows. for in this life, we are intertwined.. forever through our hearts and minds.

the hardest part wasn’t just the loss.. it was the learning to live without them in a place that doesn’t feel like home anymore.

to my grieving daughter, i hope the days you have spent without me have not been filled with so much heartache and sadness. i hope they have been filled with all the love, strength, and happiness you deserve. though i am no longer with you on earth, please know that i am always watching over you, i have not missed a beat. this life is filled with ups and downs and i know you’ve struggled with my passing but i hope you continue to live your life in the fullest way possible. life is a gift and i want you to always remember to make the most of it. love life, go see the world, always be kind to others and never give up on those dreams of yours. when you are sad, please remember that you always carry a piece of me with you. we are forever connected, no matter the distance. you have my heart; you are my heart. when you feel lost or lonely, please think of me with joy rather than sadness, and when you are missing me, please think of all the happy times, the laughter, and the love that we shared. i know i can't be by your side to tell you that it will all be okay, but you must know, my daughter, that my love for you never went away. never forget that i live in your heart and one day, when the time is right, i will see you again and hug you so tight.

when you lose a parent, you lose the person who knew you before you even knew yourself. a piece of your past goes with them.. and a piece of your future, too.

from your dad in heaven to my daughter, my wish for you is that you are embraced in all the light and love that this world has to offer. although you can no longer see me, i want you to know that i am still very much a part of your life, forever watching you from the sky. please remember that i have loved every precious moment that i had with you, my sweet daughter. i am so lucky to be your dad. i am your guardian angel now, always protecting you just as i did on earth. when you find yourself missing me, i hope you look to your heart because that is where you will find me. i have left all the best pieces of me with you and i know you will use them to look ahead to the brighter days. never forget that you are strong enough to make it through any storm that comes your way. i am with you through every struggle, every sorrow and every happy moment. take some time to stop and look around at all the beauty that still remains. never stop dreaming and always share your love with the world, just as you shared it with me. you will always be my little girl, dad