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October 2 - October 7, 2025
it’s always easier to see how you’d be happier if the other person changes,
But not how you might change. The biggest challenge in couples therapy.
an older book on the women’s movement in America, The World Split Open, by Ruth Rosen. I ordered that one, too.
Read it!
Research has shown that only about 30 percent of women can orgasm reliably from intercourse alone, while the majority 70 percent occasionally or never orgasm with intercourse. That is considered normal, and those 70 percent of women who don’t orgasm during intercourse do so from other types of stimulation,
Lime clitoral stimuation-the most common way.
The explanation I read astonished me: “. . . the distance between the clitoris and the urethra predicts how reliably orgasmic a woman is during intercourse . . .”
Yup. How sad it was her age, and simle lack of i nfo that is acurate
“Oh my God!” I said aloud. “That’s all!? Not some dark psychological problem!?” Three to six millimeters! Maybe an eighth or quarter of an inch made the difference and was just a normal variation in anatomy.
Meadure in mm!!! Bhow I wish all men & wo.men knew this simple FACT!
I did not fully realize that I was massively affected by the social climate of the time. By the time
Exactly!!!
All my analysts were men raised in the 1930s and1940s, and in my thousands of hours in their consulting rooms I had never taken that into account.
Plus it was stupid patriarchially driven research freudian junk. What a waste of time and $$!
This was my core sexual dilemma: how to please a partner yet be authentic and assertive enough to stand up for what I needed.
Indeed.
Silencing our needs damages our self-esteem and autonomy and shortchanges our relationships.
Needs a billboard.
my need to be admired colluding with his need to watch and control, the pocket of wrong inside a love so right.
Lovely description
To be clear, mine is not a story of trauma recovery. My story is about how even the ordinary task of growing up in a loving home includes some kind of distress that defines one’s
Inescapable.
life and is influenced by social issues of the day.
Part of prev note
It’s the sense of always being connected, something that helps the lonely condition of us all.
"a kind of music in your life"
