“You can’t love anyone else until you learn to love yourself first,” said every women’s magazine I’ve ever read, and later, RuPaul. As if I had to spend months or years working on all of my shit before I could subject another person to my messiness. I need to fast-forward here and remind you that I am now very happily married, and I still don’t love myself all that much. Both things are true at once. Women really can have it all!
