But, of course, we still have to do it in a way which they believe they’ve chosen, just as couples get together believing that both have chosen to do so, with their eyes wide open. It’s not just that one of them has been obliged to do so by the other – or persuaded to do so if you prefer – it’s that, at some point in the long process that brought them together, both of them have been obliged, don’t you think, and are then obliged to stay together for some time, even until death. Sometimes they’re obliged by some external factor or by someone who’s no longer in their lives, the past obliges
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