the world seems so innocuous when you don’t, wouldn’t it be better if we all just stayed very still. But even if we were to do that, the problems and coercions and humiliations and insults continue, as do the obligations, sometimes we oblige ourselves, a sense of duty it’s called, perhaps my duty is to help Berta do what she’s asking me to do, you should give importance to the things that are important to your friends; if I refuse to help her I’ll offend her, humiliate her, any refusal is also an offence, an act of coercion,
