Instead of passively expecting that the conversation will magically go in your favor, or that your friend will suddenly see the light, you spend time thinking about a proactive approach. You set a goal of gaining a better understanding of each other’s perspectives. You choose gratitude as your guiding value, a feeling of thankfulness for this friend and the memories you’ve shared. And now you’re ready for a redo. As the two of you sit down, you say, “Thank you for meeting with me.” “Yeah, of course. I wanted to,” your friend replies. You lead the conversation. “I could’ve done better.” Your
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