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I want the world to be a different place for the women who come after me. And the only way to make that happen is to ignore the fact that it isn’t different yet. But I’m so goddamned tired of staying silent just to get the things I deserve.
When I write a book about marriage, it will focus on making the whole thing easier to dissolve when it’s done.
why should I have to be a better person when no one else is?
I think that’s what upset me most: the way you can, in theory, love someone and then just stop, without warning. I wonder if it bothers Ben that it can happen by accident too.
It could be a really sweet moment, or it could be a story I later see was full of red flags. The problem is you never really know for sure.
The therapist had told me, after all, that I’d never love someone deeply if I couldn’t let myself be vulnerable. In retrospect, I wish she’d at least mentioned that sometimes you are scared for good reason.
Men will vilify you for enjoying sex, and they’ll vilify you for using it to get ahead…but they’ll punish you if you don’t enjoy it, if you don't use it to get ahead. There should be more choices left to me than either slut or prude.
“You want to burn the whole world to ash, just to make sure every path she walks is cleared for her. I know the feeling.”
“Men will call you weak if you’re soft, and they’ll call you abrasive if you’re not soft. They’ve set it up so there’s no way for us to succeed, and they get away with most of it.”
“You think you can see the future, but all you’re really doing is choosing it for yourself in advance. And I wish you’d stop choosing the things that can’t make you happy.”
