I've Got Questions: The Spiritual Practice of Having It Out with God

by Erin Hicks Moon

If you’re watching someone you love walk through this lament portion of deconstruction, I know you want to fix it. You want to give them all the right answers and platitudinal Band-Aids because you love them, and you want good things for them. It hurts you to see them not at peace. I get it. I know at some point, my kids will need to go to therapy for the way they were parented, and I understand I will have to swallow this paragraph whole, but the best thing you can do for your person who has set everything on fire with the hope of seeing what’s true is to stay with them. Show up. Do not be afraid of their grief, even if you had a hand in it. This might be the hardest thing you’ve ever done, and it will be so deeply uncomfortable at times you’ll wish you could turn yourself inside-out and disappear into your skin. This human (not project or prayer request) is building something, and if you want to be a part of whatever is on the other side, you gotta stick with them.