The real work is paying attention when you are having uncomfortable feelings. That will reveal what your needs are. When I am feeling anxious, what is the thing? Is it that I have to interact with a person who doesn’t allow me to ever speak about myself? If so, my need is to talk more about myself in this relationship. When we have the discomfort of anxiety, depression, resentment, those are all times to really think about why. Why am I feeling this? And the need will come up. Nedra Glover Tawwab
