You need to take those feelings somewhere else, whether it’s a friend, a coach, or a therapist. I make little notes on my phone—a log of the boundaries I set and the feelings that come after. So you write down: That time when I said no to making cupcakes for my kids’ school, I felt like this. And then two days later, I felt like that. That’s a nice reminder for yourself for the next time you’re wanting to push back against the social expectations.
