Every step of the way, Van has been my cheerleader, my safety net, and my challenger. Fly, he told me when we were zip lining. Want to see what’s at the edge of the reef? he asked when we were snorkeling. Don’t miss this, he said, nudging me, as the sun was just about to dip below the horizon and I had been looking at him instead. I’ve never felt happier, nor so safe, nor so … loved.