Meeting your dear dad was the great surprise of my life because I’d never imagined I would have THAT. I thought I would need someone to find me bearable, but he thought I was wonderful! And I thought him even better. He never made me feel strange. He gave me a family—I’d outwitted the fate I’d assumed for myself. He taught me how to open myself to others. I had never done that. It was healing for me. He thought I was
