Richard looked at me. “Well, what are you looking for?” I started talking before Monica made a joke. I had prayed on this, so I knew right away. “I want someone with integrity who believes in God. Someone who likes to dance and likes art and is just…” I heard myself say, “Free.” “Oh,” Richard said quietly. “Well, what about me?” Monica and I paused maybe a quarter of a second and didn’t even have to look at each other. We both said, simultaneously: “Hell no.”