The Courage to Be Disliked: The Japanese Phenomenon That Shows You How to Change Your Life and Achieve Real Happiness

by Ichiro Kishimi

The world you see is different from the one I see, and it’s impossible to share your world with anyone else.

This is the difference between etiology (the study of causation) and teleology (the study of the purpose of a given phenomenon, rather than its cause).

We are not determined by our experiences, but the meaning we give them is self-determining.”

We determine our own lives according to the meaning we give to those past experiences. Your life is not something that someone gives you, but something you choose yourself, and you are the one who decides how you live.

We can’t go back to the past in a time machine. We can’t turn back the hands of time. If you end up staying in etiology, you will be bound by the past and never be able to find happiness.

Right now, you are unable to feel really happy. This is because you have not learned to love yourself.

If you are unable to really feel happy, then it’s clear that things aren’t right just as they

It is not replacement we need but renewal.

To feel lonely, we need other people.

I am scared of interacting with people. I don’t want to get hurt in interpersonal relationships,