The Courage to Be Disliked: The Japanese Phenomenon That Shows You How to Change Your Life and Achieve Real Happiness

by Ichiro Kishimi

He doesn’t want to go out, so he’s creating a state of anxiety.

In Adlerian psychology, trauma is definitively denied.

“No experience is in itself a cause of our success or failure. We do not suffer from the shock of our experiences—the so-called trauma—but instead we make out of them whatever suits our purposes. We are not determined by our experiences, but the meaning we give them is self-determining.”

We determine our own lives according to the meaning we give to those past experiences. Your life is not something that someone gives you, but something you choose yourself, and you are the one who decides how you live.

Regardless of what may have happened in the past, it is the meaning that is attributed to it that determines the way someone’s present will be.

So you are saying that one should always take the “people can change” premise?

“People are not driven by past causes but move toward goals that they themselves set”—that