A Good Girl's Guide to Dominance

by W.S. Greer

I've been all about being honest with myself, and the truth is that I’m not a vanilla kind of girl.

Just because I am a sub who wants to be controlled and dominated doesn't mean I’m weak or afraid. It’s the opposite, actually. I want a Dom who can earn the right to dominate over me, and I will fucking crush anybody who isn’t worthy. My submission is not weakness, it is strength of the highest caliber.

Disrespected the sanctity of the safe word!

a Dom’s Dom who walks in and owns the room. He’ll worship every inch of your beautiful brown skin. He’ll look you in those deep brown eyes and tell you that he respects all of your limits, right before he disrespects you exactly the way you like it.”

“Here’s to Nia, and knowing the man of her dreams is on his way with whips, chains, blindfolds, and an unshakable respect for her boundaries. To freakiness!”

We always think the grass is greener on the other side until we reach it and see it was just a mirage, the color fading as soon as we give up what we didn't appreciate enough.

They don't understand what it’s like submitting to someone you trust with your life, and allowing them to remove every stitch of stress from your flesh. Giving it all to a person who can handle it for you, massaging you with pain and pleasure until the world melts away.

Yeah, I’m definitely tired of being single, but there’s another part of it that is even more annoying than the rest. Dating around has shown me that the prospects are abysmal.

“To the darkest shade of romance.”

Maybe I'm being too picky. I can admit that, but I can also admit that I don't care. I'm a thirty-year-old single woman who has been through a minefield of bad relationships, stepping on them and blowing myself to smithereens too many times for me to count. I will not stop being picky just to allow some moron who watched two of the three Fifty Shades movies and didn't read any of the books to take command of me.

If I wasn't the one going through it, I would stare at the cinematic event, too. Who doesn't love a great tragedy?

I want to give myself to someone in every way possible and allow them to use me, hurt me, love me, break me—because I can always trust that they know exactly how to put me back together again.

Being a Dom is about more than just getting what you want. If I don't know what she wants, then I’m lost in a forest of uncertainty. Every sub has a preference of how they want to be spoken to. Some like praise. Some prefer degradation, and my absolute favorites love both.