The Let Them Theory

by Mel Robbins

The Let Them Theory changed my relationship with other people.

Let Me is all about self-awareness, compassion, empowerment, and personal responsibility. Your friends who went away aren’t better than you. And you aren’t better than them. This is the crux of the Let Them Theory: Let Them and Let Me. The more you allow people to live their lives, the better your life will get. The more control you give up, the more you gain.

“hoping someone will change is what keeps you trapped in a relationship with someone who is emotionally immature or worse, emotionally abusive.” This has nothing to do with you. This person is not changing. You are the one who needs to change. And that’s where the Let Them Theory is life-altering.

Acceptance of another person, as they are, is the foundation of a healthy and loving relationship. When someone feels that you accept them as they are, they feel safe with you.

The more you try to rescue someone from their problems, the more likely they will continue to drown in them.