The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can't Stop Talking About

by Mel Robbins

If you’re struggling to change your

life, achieve your goals, or feel happier, I want you to hear this: The problem isn’t you. The problem is the power you unknowingly give to other people.

The time that you have with the people that you love is like a melting ice cube. One minute, it’s there. . . The next, it’s gone. And here’s the sad truth: You and I, we can’t stop the ice cube from melting. The only thing we can do is make the most of the time that we have with the people that we love while we have it.

You can’t control how other adults behave, and stressing about it diminishes your power.

Your silence can’t be misquoted.

Family tends to be a lot harsher to your face because they have a stake in your happiness and your success.

People tended to just erupt in anger when they got overwhelmed and then pretend nothing had happened. Which is why I always erupted in anger and frustration when my kids got upset. I was just repeating the same dynamic I experienced in my own childhood.

I got so easily overwhelmed by my emotions that I would throw tantrums, whether it was venting at my husband or erupting at my kids over something stupid. I had periods of my life where it was all about me, and it ruined a lot of friendships. Even to this day, when work gets incredibly stressful, I send long, angry texts to my business partner about how frustrated I am by things. And it’s not okay.

Just because you were best friends during one stage of your life doesn’t mean you will be best friends during the next stage, and that’s okay.

There are certain people who are meant to be in your life for a season. There are people that are meant to be in your life for a specific reason. And there will be people who will be with you for a lifetime.