The Let Them Theory

by Mel Robbins

Just because the right decision seems clear, doesn’t always mean it’s an easy decision to make. That’s because the human experience is largely an emotional one.

But here’s the thing, you’re not avoiding confrontation—you’re avoiding someone else’s emotions.

Never let someone else’s emotional reactions keep you from making the hard decision.

And while you’ve been busy comparing yourself to everyone else, you’ve missed one of the greatest secrets in life: Other people teach you how to be a better player, and that’s how you win.

Winning the game of life requires you to focus on the cards you have and choosing what to do with them.

you can’t change it, you must learn to allow it. Let Them.

Very little about your life is fixed in stone.

The truth is, your life is your responsibility. If you want financial success, it is your responsibility to create it.

It’s time to play your hand and win the game of life.

The more you say Let Them and Let Me, the more you’ll free up mental space, emotional energy, and time you never knew you had.

We tend to hold on to things that we know deep down are not meant for us, because we know the second we stop forcing it, the relationship will fade.

It’s easier to blame someone else, and sit in your anger, than it is to take responsibility for yourself.

The reality is, people only change when they feel like changing.

Here’s the truth: When you push someone, it only makes the person push back.

The most loving thing you can do is to stop pressuring them and Let Them be.

When you pressure someone, you’re fighting against the wiring of the human brain.

Because there’s always something within your control: It’s YOU. The only behavior change that you can control is your own. And this is where your power is.

A: APOLOGIZE, then ASK open-ended questions. B: BACK OFF, and observe their BEHAVIOR. C: CELEBRATE progress while you continue to model the CHANGE.

People do well when they can. Not when they want to do well, but when they can.

immediate positive compliments are a key driver to influencing behavior change.