The Let Them Theory

by Mel Robbins

So much time and energy is wasted on forcing other people to match our expectations. And the truth is, if somebody else—a person you’re dating, a business partner, a family member—if they’re not showing up how you need them to show up, do not try to force them to change. Let Them be themselves because they are revealing who they are to you. Just Let Them and then you get to choose what you do next. That’s all I said. And you got it immediately.

If you let the stress of this situation take over, you will never be able to think strategically about your next move. There is always a next move.

You do not have to stay in any job that makes you feel frustrated, demoralized, or stressed. And you shouldn’t. Let Them string you along.

Stop feeling sorry for people who play the victim all the time.

if you’re not motivated to do something, it’s going to take something painful to force you to change.

There are certain people who are meant to be in your life for a season. There are people that are meant to be in your life for a specific reason. And there will be people who will be with you for a lifetime.