The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can't Stop Talking About

by Mel Robbins

If you’ve ever been in this situation, you understand how monumental even the simplest tasks seem:

even just being honest about the extent to which you’re struggling. . .

So much time and energy is wasted on forcing other people to match our expectations.

No matter how hard you try, you will never be able to control or change another person. The only person you are in control of is you. Your thoughts, your actions, your feelings.

Because no matter how much we try to control people or situations, the truth is, we can’t. People will do what they want to do. They’ll make their own choices, live their own lives.

Trying to control people and situations doesn’t calm your fears.

True power lies in our response.

Let Them Theory represents “a profound truth: choosing peace is not weakness—it is power.

“True power lies in our response. My father believed that nonviolence was not passive but the most courageous form of action—choosing peace when hatred tries to provoke. By refusing to react with bitterness, we reclaim our power and shape a better future.”

When you say Let Them, you’re not giving up or walking away. You’re releasing that grip you have on how things should go and allowing them to unfold the way they will go. You’re freeing yourself. You’re making an active, empowered

Let Me figure out the deeper issue that I need to look at. Let Me be more proactive about reaching out to people.