The Let Them Theory

by Mel Robbins

no one is coming to save you. You must save yourself from yourself.

other people hold no real power over you unless you give it to them.

Letting go feels like you’ve lost. You’re surrendering to something beyond your control. Let Them is the opposite: it’s strength.

Anytime you internalize other people’s thoughts, actions, and feelings as evidence that somehow you’re a bad person or you’ve done something wrong, you just gave other people power.

When you let the world around you impact your emotional state and peace of mind, you become a prisoner to these external forces.

Let Me stay engaged and vocal on the issues I care about and do something that can change the future of my local, national, and global politics.

you’re not avoiding confrontation—you’re avoiding someone else’s emotions.

When you stop expecting to have everyone be your best friend, or to be invited to everything, or be included in everything, or that you will click with everyone, friendship gets a lot easier.

Reach out to people because you want to. But don’t expect a response.

The connection you have with another person never actually breaks.