The Let Them Theory

by Mel Robbins

choosing peace is not weakness—it is power.

By choosing how we respond—by not feeding anger, hatred, or negativity—we exercise the ultimate power over ourselves.

When you let the world around you impact your emotional state and peace of mind, you become a prisoner to these external forces.

There is a certain kind of confidence that comes with knowing that other people can’t disrupt your peace.

People can only meet you as deeply as they’ve met themselves.

But the fact is, most human beings have never done the work to understand themselves, heal their past, or manage their own emotions. If they haven’t done that for themselves, they are incapable of doing that for you and showing up in a way that you deserve.

Emotional maturity isn’t something you’re born with or that just happens. It’s a skill that takes time, practice, and a desire to learn.

The more time you spend staring at someone else, the more you miss the entire point of the game.

As much as you may love someone and believe in them and would do anything in the world to make their pain go away, you cannot want someone else’s sobriety, healing, or health more than they do.