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other people hold no real power over you unless you give it to them.
If your friends are not inviting you out to brunch this weekend, Let Them. If the person that you’re really attracted to is not interested in a commitment, Let Them. If your kids do not want to get up and go to that thing with you this week, Let Them. So much time and energy is wasted on forcing other people to match our expectations. And the truth is, if somebody else—a person you’re dating, a business partner, a family member—if they’re not showing up how you need them to show up, do not try to force them to change. Let Them be themselves because they are revealing who they are to you. Just
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No matter how hard you try, you will never be able to control or change another person. The only person you are in control of is you. Your thoughts, your actions, your feelings.
the more you try to control something you can’t, the more anxious and stressed out you become.
“It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.”
People only change when they are ready to make that change for themselves. Stop punishing them for not changing on your timeline.
“avoidance is a coping mechanism when someone is struggling.”
“Don’t shield them from the consequences of what they choose.”
You get to choose who and how you love too. You get to choose who is worth your time and energy, and you get to choose how you want to be treated.
People’s behavior tells you exactly how they feel about you.
“If someone likes you, you’ll know, and if they don’t, you’ll be confused.”
Stop giving your love to people who do not love you back. Stop making excuses for people who are clearly not interested in you. Stop chasing people who are not choosing to love you back. Stop playing the game.
You are either a priority, or you are not. There is no middle ground.
If somebody is sending you mixed signals, it means they are NOT interested. Mixed signals aren’t “mixed” at all. They send a very clear message that you are not a priority; you’re a convenience.
Time doesn’t heal all wounds. What you do with your time does.
you are responsible for your own happiness.
