The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can't Stop Talking About

by Mel Robbins

You’ll never feel ready to change your life. One day, you just get tired of your own excuses and force yourself to do it.

The problem isn’t you. The problem is the power you unknowingly give to other people.

I spent years trying to be everything for everyone else, thinking that if I could just do enough, say the right things, and keep everyone happy, I’d finally feel good about myself. But what happens instead? You work harder, bend further, and shrink yourself smaller, and still, someone is disappointed. Still, someone criticizes. Still, you’re left feeling like no matter how hard you try, it’s never enough.

To stop wasting your time, energy, and happiness trying to control things you can’t control—like other people’s opinions, moods, or actions—and, instead, focus on the one thing you can control: you.

The truth is, other people hold no real power over you unless you give it to them.

The only thing we can do is make the most of the time that we have with the people that we love while we have it.

Their disrespect doesn’t say anything about you. How you respond does.

Stop fixating on your current situation, and start focusing on finding a better opportunity.

You are so much stronger than anyone’s opinions about you.

Anytime you improve yourself, it improves all your relationships.

People can only meet you as deeply as they’ve met themselves. Most people haven’t gone to therapy, haven’t looked at their issues, and they don’t want to.

It’s not about being perfect; it’s about being kind to yourself and continuing to grow.

Avoiding the hard conversations now won’t make them any better next year.

It is impossible to enjoy your life or love yourself and beat yourself up at the same time.

The warmth you give to others always finds its way back to you.

you’re looking for someone who is capable of helping you become your best self and co-creating a beautiful life together.

“If someone likes you, you’ll know, and if they don’t, you’ll be confused.”

Chasing love only chases it away.

Stop pouring your time and energy into people who do not give it back to you.

“Are these table scraps what you’re willing to accept, or are you looking for a five-star meal?”

one of these days you’re going to wake up and realize that you’re not only feeling better—you are better.

A relationship doesn’t make you worthy of love. Your existence does.