The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can't Stop Talking About

by Mel Robbins

The problem isn’t you. The problem is the power you unknowingly give to other people.

But what happens instead? You work harder, bend further, and shrink yourself smaller, and still, someone is disappointed. Still, someone criticizes. Still, you’re left feeling like no matter how hard you try, it’s never enough. It doesn’t have to be this way. This book is here to help you take your power back. To stop wasting your time, energy, and happiness trying to control things you can’t control—like other people’s opinions, moods, or actions—and, instead, focus on the one thing you can control: you.

Instead of driving yourself crazy trying to manage or please other people, you’ll learn to Let Them.

The truth is, other people hold no real power over you unless you give it to them. Here’s why this works: When you stop trying to control things that aren’t yours to control, you stop wasting your energy. You reclaim your time, your peace of mind, and your focus. You realize that your happiness is tied to your actions, not someone else’s behavior, opinions, or mood.

So much time and energy is wasted on forcing other people to match our expectations. And the truth is, if somebody else—a person you’re dating, a business partner, a family member—if they’re not showing up how you need them to show up, do not try to force them to change. Let Them be themselves because they are revealing who they are to you. Just Let

Them and then you get to choose what you do next.

why do you want to be with someone who does this to you? You don’t. Don’t waste your energy chasing someone who’s already left. Focus on what you can control: Processing your emotions and reminding yourself that you deserve someone who treats you with respect.

Let Them judge. Let Them disapprove. Let Them have their opinions. Let Them

think bad thoughts. Let Them talk about me behind my back.

Remember the fundamental law of human nature: You can’t control what another adult says, does, or thinks. Try to and you’ll regret it.

Doing what makes you happy, being brave, taking risks, and following your own path will always be more important than other people’s opinions about it. This is YOUR life. Stop letting other people’s opinions ruin it.

Love this. Its so true

Every time you say Let Them, you clear all of the noise and distraction on the surface and create space for something deeper: your voice, your intuition, your truth, and your unique path in life.

If others use the let them thory...... Why do tbe care. We shoukdnt care.

When YOU are proud of yourself, you hold all the power.

even when you bend over backward and try to please everyone, and make it work, even THAT won’t guarantee that other people will

think a positive thought. Let Them.

don’t be the person who bends over backward to mak...

They aren’t just learning to accept a new adult in their life; they are also grieving the loss of the family they wanted. This is NORMAL.

and the promises that were made to their mom on her deathbed—are now evaporating.

And they are even allowed not to like you or the person you love. So, Let Them. And then, Let Me choose how to respond.

You get one wild and precious life, so go live it in a way that makes you proud.