The Let Them Theory

by Mel Robbins

The reality is, no matter how hard you try or what you do, you cannot control other people. And yet, you live your life as if you can.

The problem isn’t you. The problem is the power you unknowingly give to other people.

Trying to control people and situations doesn’t calm your fears. It amplifies them. Any psychologist will tell you, the more you try to control something you can’t, the more anxious and stressed out you become.

By practicing Let Them and Let Me, you’re applying the core principle of Stoicism: Focus on yourself, because that’s where your true power lies.

The more you let other people live their lives, the better your life gets. — Mel Robbins

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