The Let Them Theory

by Mel Robbins

the urge to control things comes from a very primal place: fear.

When you say Let Them, you’re practicing emotional detachment. You create a mental gap between your emotions and the situation at hand, allowing yourself to observe what’s happening without being consumed by it.

How amazing is it that other people’s behavior doesn’t have to be a huge problem in your life?

Right now, you move through life with other people’s opinions as your road map. You take the left or right turn based on what you anticipate other people might think or say, rather than making the turn you want to make. When you navigate your life trying to predict what people are going to think and say about you, you give your power away.

I used to either avoid conversations or overexplain everything because I was afraid someone would get upset with me or think I was a bad person. All it did was create more anxiety for me. Learning to Let Them be upset, Let Them be confused, Let Them react—has been life-altering.

Make it a habit to just cheer for people and wish them the best.