The Next Conversation: Argue Less, Talk More

by Jefferson Fisher

What do you think I find important in my life based on my daily conversations? What are three words you would use to describe my character to someone who doesn’t know me? What topics of conversation do I get most enthusiastic about? What quality is most important to me in the friendships I have? What emotion do you wish I’d show more of?

You can’t choose the outcome of a conversation. You can only choose whether to try to connect.

To assert yourself is confidence in motion. Assertiveness is found in the way you say things, the way you lean into your words.

They’re your cornerstone for healthy relationships, honest communication, and self-respect. By building boundaries, you not only protect your emotional and mental well-being but also educate others to understand and respect your needs and limits. Boundaries also help you prevent burnout and resentment by making sure you’re not overextended, allowing you to allocate your time and energy to what truly matters. They enable you to make choices aligned with your values and priorities, promoting your freedom and autonomy. Boundaries are also a form of self-care:

This is a time for watching and observing who is in your corner, who your real people are. The ones who love you will support you. The ones who love you for only what you give to them will be against you.