You know you want it, so here’s what you do: get some requirements and standards and enforce them—tell him, “I love you, you love me, we’re in a terrific relationship—one that I’ve always dreamed about. And what I want now is to be married to you. So I need you to set a date, and get back to me in a couple of weeks. If I don’t get asked by then, then please know I’m not sitting around waiting for you to dictate when my happiness button gets pushed. The arrangements we have now are not making me happy.”