a pros-and-cons list often teases out all the reasons you think something should be wrong or right, without ever digging into whether something is wrong or right for you and why. Simply listing the pros and cons doesn’t capture the full range of motivations that drive your choices. Rather than illuminating what you really want, social psychologist Timothy D. Wilson warns, such lists can provide plausible-sounding but hollow reasons to pursue choices that do not reflect your authentic needs and desires. To better assess your situation, practice decision framing: Widen your cone of uncertainty
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