Finally, we always need to keep the monkey on the back of the person responsible for the problem. Sometimes that is difficult. For instance, if our child is using drugs, that can be a problem for parents if the family car is crashed or money is stolen from the family to pay for the habit. Nevertheless, even in such circumstances some parents act as if the whole thing is their problem, whereas others still manage to look at their child and communicate, “Honey, you have a big problem” and then go on to do whatever they need to do to take care of themselves.
