from early childhood on, parents must always be asking thinking questions: “Would you rather carry your coat or wear it?” “Would you rather put your boots on now or in the car?” “Would you rather play nicely in front of the television or be noisy in your room?” We don’t use fighting words: “You put that coat on now!” “Because I said put your boots on, that’s why! It’s snowing outside.” “I’m trying to watch this football game, so be quiet!”
