When we punish our children, we provide them with a great escape valve, an escape from the consequences of their action. They never have to think when they’re punished. They don’t have to change their behavior. They think, I’m being punished for what I did. I’m doing my time. And their anger is directed toward the punisher: us. As Love and Logic parents, we want our kids to hurt from the inside out. This happens when we allow the consequences to do the teaching. Consequences leave kids thinking very hard about their behavior and their responsibilities. Consequences lead to self-examination and
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