anytime we explode at children for something they do to themselves, we only make the problem worse. We give kids the message that the actual, logical consequence of messing up is making adults mad. The children get swept away in the power of their anger rather than learn a lesson from the consequences of their mistake. When we intrude into our children’s problems with anger or a rescue mission, we make their problems our problems. And children don’t worry about problems they know are the concern of their parents. This can be explained partly by the “No sense in both of us worrying about it”
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