The final steps of forming a positive self-concept as our kids grow is an inside job — it is something kids have to do for themselves. It comes from working hard and accomplishing good things. No amount of stuff or praise can build a resilient self-image for children. Oddly enough, kids don’t feel good about themselves when we do everything we can to keep them happy or give them everything they want. They have to sweat a little and earn things for themselves.
