What I Was Doing While You Were Breeding

by Kristin Newman

I love to do the thing you’re supposed to do in the place you’re supposed to do it.

“You’re always rushing to fill up your life with fun fun fun. But nothing new or good can come in without a void to fill. Voids are necessary and wonderful.”

Ultimately, this trip was me proving to myself that I hadn’t lost myself. But let’s be honest: if you don’t ever lose yourself, it means you’re not entirely in the game.

life is an endless series of choosing between two things you want almost equally. And you have to evaluate and determine which awesome thing you want infinitesimally more, and then give up that other awesome thing you want almost exactly as much.

If love is just a feeling, and that feeling changes, then what? Love has to be something you choose to build.”

And if you can somehow remember that all of life, and every relationship, is going to end, man, every moment becomes sweet.

Even though this book was all about my struggle to NOT be a sad, single girl looking for love, that does not mean I was not often a sad, single girl, and I was absolutely looking for love. I just thought love was going to look different than it turned out to look, and so I ran away from it a lot.