Dignity, mutual care and respect are our default settings as a species. Like most mammals, we must also carry the capacity for violent struggle, but that has to be limited by good governance and never held by one person or one group exclusively. It must be accessible to all, moving from actor to actor constantly, just like the Indigenous version of tag. Any weapons used must be beautiful, for display as much as defence, and must be limited in their potential to do large-scale damage.