We cannot improve our love lives if we do not acknowledge and confront the saboteur that lives inside of us. Everyone has an inner saboteur, and it’s usually the teenager (or younger child) part of ourselves, who is always looking for ways to self-protect from hurt. Because the immature and wounded part of ourselves is always desperately searching for safety, it will destroy anything that stands in the way of finding it. Our inner saboteur has the purest of intentions: to protect us from hurt.
