Successful communications—any conversation, social or business—involves an unspoken contract between the participating parties. This contract has two conditions: 1) both people want the communication to succeed and 2) both people contribute to the communication. The result is a layering effect, a building of the information pool. Each listens and then adds to what the other has said. If, in any conversation, you give too many details all at once, you violate the contract by denying the other participant a chance to contribute. With patience, it is possible to gradually share most details you
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